Very Single. Very Peaceful. Very PH Balanced.
Being Single by Choice
There were the ones who only came around at night. The ones who said, "You’re different," but never acted like it. The ones who treated vulnerability like weakness and presence like a privilege they weren’t sure you deserved. And then there were the ones who said they were single—but weren’t.
There’s a difference between being single and being lonely. Being single by choice means reclaiming peace, not avoiding connection.
I’m single by choice, not because I can’t be with someone, but because I’ve finally stopped choosing the ones who come half-ready or fully unavailable. I’ve been the main. I’ve been the side. I’ve been the one waiting, hoping, trusting, giving too much grace to someone who gave me just enough to stay but not enough to feel safe.
I’ve had someone lie straight through their teeth while swearing they were honest. I’ve been used for my time, my energy, my body, my comfort, only to be left empty while they went back to whoever they claimed they were “done with.” I’ve lived that silent heartbreak. I’ve been the other woman, and let me tell you: no matter how grown or in control you think you are, it chips away at you. Quietly. Deeply.
Intentional Solitude: The New Luxury
So now? I’m choosing peace.
That doesn’t mean I don’t want a relationship. I do. I want real connection, accountability, communication, presence, partnership. I want someone I can build with, someone who shows up even when it’s uncomfortable. But until I meet someone who can match what I give without playing me in the process, I’ll stay right here.
Single. Peaceful. Not getting cheated on. And yes, very pH balanced.
Now, sex? That’s a different craving.
Why Being Single by Choice Isn’t Settling—It’s Empowering
Being single by choice doesn’t mean giving up on love—it means not lowering your standards for it. It’s a choice rooted in self-worth, in peace, and in not accepting crumbs when you bring a whole damn cake. If someone comes along who adds to that peace, great. Until then? You’re good. More than good—you’re balanced.
Read more about choosing better over staying hopeful.
Is being single the same as being lonely?
No. Being single by choice can be one of the most empowering, peaceful, and healing states when done with intention.
What does “pH balanced” mean here?
It’s a cheeky nod to physical health and emotional balance—life without chaos means your peace (and everything else) stays unbothered.